# 48. Emotional manipulation ## 48.5. Methodology/Refinements/Sub-species ### 48.5.12. Reverse dependency Most of us believe that we tend to do nice things for the people we like and bad things to the people we hate. In fact, it doesn't quite work like this. The reality is that we grow to like people for whom we do nice things and we tend to hate people whom we have harmed. This is a readily used manipulative opportunity. A manipulator can co-opt a victim by giving them an opportunity to help the manipulator. As soon as the victim has done some favour for the manipulator, the victim begins to form an emotional attachment towards the manipulator. It is almost as if the victim begins to form affection for his "emotional investment" which will then grow with time. The reverse is also true. An inadvertent injury can cause the rapid development of full-scale enmity between two otherwise neutral parties. In this scenario, a manipulator can deliberately cause this injury and bring about an entirely artificial rift.